Like most of us, I have tended to live for the next. The next season. The next accomplishment. The next stage. I am learning, slowly, to accept the now. I don’t like the now, to be honest. I don’t like its messy. I don’t like all the flaws I see in it (and in...
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Fifteen Years
This week, Eric and I celebrate fifteen years of marriage. We dated for sixteen months. We were friends for about eighteen months before that. I’ve known him for nearly as long as I lived without knowing him. And y’all, he’s still just my favorite. Fifteen Years … by the Numbers One cast (Megan’s arm)...
Outcast or Bridge
This week, Ruth Soukup released a new book called Do It Scared. I took the fear assessment that’s included in the book, and my primary fear archetype is an Outcast. The Outcast’s biggest fear is rejection. That no one will want them. Sometimes it’s because people have, actually, rejected them. Many times, it’s not....
Should, or The Problem with Duty
I didn’t know I had a problem with duty. Okay, that’s not exactly true. I didn’t realize just how big of a problem I had with duty. I called it rule-following. Or doing the right thing. Others preferred goody two-shoes or perfect. And for all those years, I was sure, no matter how imperfect...
The Trenches of Motherhood
“the trenches of motherhood (n): the stage of parenting in which your children are preschool aged or younger; a 5+ year blur. I don’t know who first used this term in my presence. I think it was my friend Denae. We both had twins (hers are two years older than mine), and when I’d...